I’m hesitant, but…
February 17, 2007
here it is, just the same: my first journal entry. I notice that the journals that I like most on here aren’t the daily personal variety. People don’t interest me; ideas interest me. How about ideas, sharing information, things that you think are really important for other people to read? Now that sounds like something that wouldn’t be a waste of my time (in comparison to telling y’all what time I dragged myself out of bed and what I had for breakfast today and complain about the weather.)
The woman who spoke at my college graduation was this crazy lady who was actually borderline offensive on a couple occasions. But she got one thing right. She said, “You hear about young people these days taking time off after school, travelling around Europe, taking time off to ‘find themselves.’ Well, forget about trying to ‘find yourself’- it’s a bunch of self-involved nonsense. Instead, try your hardest to find something that you can truly lose yourself in, and you’ll be doing just fine.” You dig?
The most recent book I’ve finished is the autobiography of the Dalai Lama, and I can’t recommend it highly enough. The political implications of the plight of Tibet over the last fifty-odd years is staggering enough, but the ideals by which this genuinely altruistic man lives is awe-inspiring, particularly in light of the challenges he has faced in leading the Tibetan Goverment in Exile. I’m not just being a sap, either. Just read the book, and you’ll see what I mean. The following excerpt is from the last chapter of his autobiography and seems to particularly encapsulate his most basic beliefs.
“I believe that…suffering is caused by ignorance, and that people inflict pain on others in pursuit of their own happiness or satisfaction. Yet true happiness comes from a sense of inner peace and contentment, which in turn must be achieved through cultivation of altruism, of love, of compassion, and through the elimination of anger, selfishness and greed.
To some people this may sound naive, but I would remind them that, no matter what part of the world we come from, fundamentally we are all the same human beings. We all seek happiness and try to avoid suffering. We have the same basic needs and concerns. Furthermore, all of us human beings want freedom and the right to determine our own destiny as individuals. That is human nature. The great changes taking place everywhere in the world, from Eastern Europe to Africa, are a clear indication of this.
At the same time, the problems we face today – violent conflicts, destruction of nature, poverty, hunger, and so on – are mainly problems created by humans. They can be resolved – but only through human effort, understanding and the development of a sense of brotherhood and sisterhood. To do this, we need to cultivate a sense of universal responsibility for one another and for the planet we share, based on a good heart and awareness.”
~ From “Universal Responsibility and the Good Heart”, Freedom in Exile; the autobiography of the Dalai Lama.
I wonder that this man and his advice is not heeded and revered much more than it currently is on global and individual levels. Who else out there (among my vast readership) has read his work? Anyone out there care to? I’m hoping for a genuine, positive exchange of ideas, so please post any comments you think could be relevant and useful.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:39 pm
wryyyyyyyyyy, 29M, Straight, London, United Kingdom; February 15 9:17pm:
TL;DR
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:40 pm
IceTitan, 31M, Straight, Raleigh, North Carolina, United States; February 15 9:39pm:
I knew I bought that B&N membership for some reason. I’ll pick it up soon.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:40 pm
NegativeK, 22M, Straight, Athens, Georgia, United States; February 15 9:41pm:
When speaking on science, the Dalai Lama said “If science says [Buddhism] is wrong, then we change [Buddhism]!” Most of the quotes I’ve heard from him make me think that he is a generally awesome man – and I think I’ll see if the local library has that book in stock.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:40 pm
mes617, 26M, Straight, Panama City, Florida, United States; February 15 9:49pm:
Almost all social change has to start at the personal level; people have to decide to do or not do something, and stick to it. Unfortunately, this is usually the difficult path, and most people tend to follow the easier, less-ideal path. I think the key is moderation – you have to balance your own desires & goals, with those of society. Extremes are always dangerous – purely selfish actions cause a lot of destruction and conflict with others, while purely societal actions negate the freedom and liberty of the individual. In the end, I think it’s just going to take enough people to stand up and resolve themselves to finding a better way.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:41 pm
wryyyyyyyyyy, 29M, Straight, London, United Kingdom; February 15 9:57pm:
“I wonder that this man and his advice is not heeded and revered much more than it currently is on global and individual levels.” Me too. Someone should start some kind of organisation. I may sound crazy for saying this, but, hey, even a religion. If L. Ron Hubbard can do it, I am sure the combined power of us OkCupidItes could manage it. My favourite quote of his: “Enlightening a body without a mind will produce a body of inanity”
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:42 pm
adkgirl, 23F, Straight, Decatur, Georgia, United States; February 15 10:03pm:
Wryyyyyyyyyyyyy- the Dalai Lama writes that any religion can create good in the world, or bad for that matter. It’s not religion that is good or bad, it is how it’s practised. In fact, he also acknowledges that religion is certainly not the only means to apply a set of positive (or negative ethics). I’m not religious myself, but the principles of compassion and a good heart can be practised by anyone…except maybe you. I highly doubt the Dalai Lama is out to convert the world. Anyone else a little less jaded want to weigh in on this?
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:43 pm
ArcadianRadical, 23M, Straight, Decatur, Georgia, United States; February 15 10:18pm:
When I was in high school, I read the Dalai Lama’s “Art of Happiness.” The practical exercises contained therein not only lifted me out of depression, but awakened a sense of spirituality in me that, a few years later, led to a religious conversion. I’m going to apply a Christian worldview to the quote above because, whether or not I’m justified in doing so, it’s my personal response. I think the world is now and has always been a mess. I also think it will always be true that the majority of people in the world will be self-centered and greedy and clutching after material possessions at the expense of everything else; for some reason, that seems like an easier way to live life. It’s not, but it always seems that way. Of course, that shouldn’t stop the concerned minority, with values very different from the rest of the world, from taking action and working for change. That’s the only we make progress on anything, and it’s good and possible and wonderful to make progress.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:44 pm
nightcomeson, 24M, Straight, Easley, South Carolina, United States; February 15 11:22pm:
To answer your question, I haven’t read anything by His Holiness, though I have quite a bit of Buddhist literature by several other authors.
Anyway, I’m just wondering about that quote you mentioned – if we actually have the same basic needs and desires as everyone else, and if it would be a bad thing if that wasn’t actually the case. From what I’ve seen, people tend to operate from radically different places and motivations. Yes, we need to eat and find shelter, but once those needs are taken care of, one can easily see someone living to be praised, to be loved, to be secure, to be at risk, to be pleasured or to pleasure, to make a change in the world or to forsake the world completely. If these are each authentic needs, then some of them exist to the exclusion or limitation of others in each person. I would think, then, that even if everyone in the world dropped their agendas, recognized grasping nature and began living in the moment and cultivating this brotherhood, that we would be looking not at a single vision of brotherhood, but at as many unique visions as there are people. It would only be a relatively small number of people who would be instituting these changes to eliminate poverty, hunger, pollution and war on a large scale while the rest look to their community or personal interests. And this would ideally be done with no demagogues, no party or untraversable religious or ethnic lines…just a respect for the world as both radical Other and extension of Self…but I’m just rambling now. Cheers.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:45 pm
gopherdave, 24M, Straight, Sandy Springs, Georgia, United States; February 15 11:26pm:
Have you ever just tried writing down ideas you have in a day? Maybe keep half a dozen of those pocket notebooks everywhere for your dreams, descriptions of people on MARTA, random thoughts like what it would be like to quit your job and move to Mexico to grow agave. Finding those could bring a joy like finding money or fortune cookies in a forgotten coat pocket, but the value would be a single thought captured in the amber of time. What if everyone shared these rediscovered thoughts? Wouldn’t that be wonderful?
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:45 pm
withoutaspleen, 23M, Straight, Greensboro, North Carolina, United States; February 15 11:29pm:
Well, i’m definitely interested in reading that book, the autobio of the Dalai Lama. I think we are a far cry from reaching anything, as a society, like what he preaches/suggest/believes. But i do very much agree with a lot of it. Based on the recommendation i’ll check it out. So who was the lady who spoke at your graduation. She seems to have hit the nail on the head with that one, i certainly like the quote. My grad speaker was also a bit offensive but made her speech was slighty humorous. But i think that, because it was a december graduation, it was right fot the time and mentality. Anyway, thanks for the rec. on the book, i’ll be checking that out.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:47 pm
mytoyo, 24M, Straight, Hialeah, Florida, United States; February 15 11:34pm:
“You hear about young people these days taking time off after school, travelling around Europe, taking time off to ‘find themselves.’ Well, forget about trying to ‘find yourself’- it’s a bunch of self-involved nonsense. Instead, try your hardest to find something that you can truly lose yourself in, and you’ll be doing just fine.” I agree as well for example a question comes to mind i dont exactly remember the question but it was something like “would you stay with your ideal partner if they asked for time and space to be apart.” and the truth is that you have to go thru the fire and endure the pain it reinforces the bond. But on the other hand you have a word called “enlightment” and i’m sure we have experienced it. So the question is do you endure the pain together or let the other find themselves. Some one once said that true love is when you let it go and if it comes back then you know it truely is. Do you fight for what you believe in or do you let it go and just BELIEVE in it. “I believe that…suffering is caused by ignorance, and that” His statement is just as ignorant, really what about the 3rd world countries like Somalia were little kids fight over a oounce of uncooked rice? Do all homeless people deserve to be homeless? Do the hurricane victims of Katrina suffer from ignorance. “people inflict pain on others in pursuit of their own happiness or satisfaction.” The word pain needs to be define, if its merely a high school coach screaming at his players for not playing tough defense its his job he is not selfish, some people bring out the best in you. “Yet true happiness comes from a sense of inner peace and contentment, which in turn must be achieved through cultivation of altruism, of love, of compassion, and through the elimination of anger, selfishness and greed.” Can you really experience these feelings and perspectives with out the other, in other words would you know what love is until you have hated? Would you know what happiness really is if you have never been angry? One cant live with out the other. To some people this may sound naive, but I would remind them that, no matter what part of the world we come from, fundamentally we are all the same human beings. We all seek happiness and try to avoid suffering. We have the same basic needs and concerns. Furthermore, all of us human beings want freedom and the right to determine our own destiny as individuals. That is human nature. The great changes taking place everywhere in the world, from Eastern Europe to Africa, are a clear indication of this. Again disagree, example we all like sweets we eat sweets to feel good but we have to be aware of the consequences cavities & tooth decay thus the byproduct suffering. The very thing we are looking for is making us suffer. I suggest homeostasis. We are all little white mouses trying to find the exit to the maze most of us try going thru every entrance some gather in groups and chrew their way thru to the otherside the real smart ones join in a circle and give one mice a boost to over look the complete maze some have no regard for the mouse infront of them if they are faster and some just stay at the entrance. I guess what i’m trying to say is that we have EVOLVED. We all have different opinions and perspectives i think we are at 300+ million people in the US in order to make a change we have to break inside the Zion City like all the sentinals did in the matrix and have an over whelming amount of [website users] to make a statement. Until then it…..this has been fun. -Marvin
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:47 pm
LiveLoveLaugh82, 24M, Straight, Atlanta, Georgia, United States; February 15 11:36pm:
I’ve thoroughly enjoyed everything the man has ever published so I’m adding this to the list of must reads. I will say that as mentioned earlier, “The Art of Happiness” is possibly one of the most life altering books I’ve ever read. It really changed my perception and outlook of and on life. I will also say that if you get a chance to read the notes on a discussion he took place in called “Science at the Crossroads” a global seminar on the current face and future outlook of science… specifically genetic engineering – he’s got to be one of the most forward thinking spiritual leaders in history… Really any of the Speech/Messages on his website are pretty awe-inspiring. It would be nice to see a larger following of the general ideas and practices he speaks of. I think that the primary problem is his works are not widely publicized… I’ll say that I know a lot about him because I’ve made a point to… if I hadn’t though I probably would only know that he’s the leader of the Tibetan Government in Exile and the Buddhist Spiritual leader. And to top it off, we are becoming a progressively less concerned, less literate society it would seem.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:48 pm
coolmoedee345, 26M, Straight, Houston, Texas, United States; February 15 11:57pm:
The only problem is that it’s incorrect and misunderstands the nature of human understanding. Altruism is loosely defined as any act motivated by a desire to do good for another with no concern for yourself. It is epistemically impossible to be altruistic – all you can perceive or know is what affects you. That means that you must always do everything for your own reasons. There are always ulterior motives. In this case, happiness by way of psychic benefit. Then, of course, there’s the inherent contradiction between his assumption of positive rights (“responsibility for others”) and the desire for freedom. I could go on. The man may be inspirational, but he’s definitely got to work on the analytical side.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:48 pm
Ashcans, 23M, Straight, Atlanta, Georgia, United States; February 1612:31am:
While I essentially agree with a lot of his thoughts and points, it seems to be that the stumbling block is in making this transition of views. I realise that for him, this occurs on a much more personal level, but ultimately any world view in this vein must consider how to effect a great change in ideals. For decades market forces and self-interest have been pushed as the way not just to get happy, but as a panacea for all manner of international problems. The go-to solution has been trade liberalization and market freedom, which are greedy and selfish beasts. How does one make an about turn on that concept, without having to first face a massive crisis? And such a crisis will have to be truly massive, because the nature of the world is such that the people hurt by ignorance and greed are frequently not our neighbours or our friends, members of our community, but those thousands of miles away, seldom seen and easily ignored. Even in this age of staggering communiation and media, the apathy toward suffering in distant countries is immense. Many of the people that don’t reap the rewards of this rhetoric may have already changed their minds (witness the Doha round) but unless the population of those nations that dominate the system experiences a change of heart, the structural power they wield is hard to overcome. My question is therefore not if he is right (because I believe he is) but how does one or many go about overturning entrenched ideology? It’s hard enough to sell most people on a basic healthcare system for their own community, much less on measure to aid the suffering a continent away. I realise that I sound cynical, and that is not my goal. I sincerely hope such a change can be managed. I’m just trying to think pragmatically about how it can happen.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:49 pm
adkgirl, 23F, Straight, Georgia, United States; February 16 1:04am:
Ashcans: I agree, it seems to be an insurmountable problem, because we are very much entrenched in a world where pursuing self-interest, financial success etc. etc. are widely held to be the means by which to assure happiness. As a writer of fiction, I try to watch for general trends and actions on the individual level that are evocative of the times in which we are living. What I am beginning to notice is people tending towards a vague dissatisfaction with life as it’s shaping up for them. I have a friend whose successful white collar father divorced his wife, suffered a breakdown of sorts, and then sold all his things to move to a commune in Hawaii in hopes of setting his life right. He was back on the mainland in less than two weeks. I can’t imagine how he feels now. Perhaps it is only disillusionment and dissatisfaction that is the impetus that moves individuals to a change of heart that departs from the current status quo. I certainly wouldn’t expect this to be monumental or world-changing, but if individuals change, I suppose it’s possible for the whole to change. Extremely doubtful though, as it would take a lot. I too am saddened by the apathy that has developed towards the suffering of people in contries distant from our own. It seems no manner of violence or shocking story is enough to move people any longer. I worked as a newspaper copy editor for some time, and I must say that at least local media shelters its readers from the most graphic images that the AP makes available. Previewing photos to put in the international section, I’ve cried at work at the sight of graphic photos of bloodshed and ruined lives in high resolution on my giant computer screen. Asking if it would be acceptable to use such a photo, I was told it might be “a little too much.” So I suppose that I don’t have an answer, either. I hope such a change can be managed as well, but it seems that the most that any one person can do is live their own life with a mind to minimise the suffering of others, provide compassion, and promote a sense of universal responsibility as best they can.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:49 pm
kidgo, 30M, Straight, Houston, Texas, United States; February 16 2:14am:
adkgirl, it interests me which entries you chose to respond to, when in fact, i believe that coolmoedee makes a very compelling point that is devoid of superficial and insubstantial ideas.//p however, so as to harness your original ideas instead of making it a discussion comprised entirely of cliches about the bleak state of our world, let me offer my simple thoughts as a response to one of your original sentiments, “…fundamentally we are all the same human beings. We all seek happiness and try to avoid suffering. We have the same basic needs and concerns. Furthermore, all of us human beings want freedom and the right to determine our own destiny as individuals.”//p i disagree with this basic premiss. we are not all the same. this oversimplifies our complex human nature and if we were as you indicate we would all be very capable of ascending to this “enlightened” ideal of betterment through others. i agree, however, that the avoidance of pain or suffering is a basic human tenet. the pursuit of happiness? not so much. i believe that in simpler civilizations, it’s far easier and far more achievable, but in our modern world, the simple concept of happiness is skewed and perverted by those who seek to profit (and do) from having us believe in the ever-evolving materialistic wonts of The Modern Man. What you state is what you desire of the world. However, most are lost in the projections that have been designed and crafted for them and therefore could never fathom a sense of a true “happiness”.//p the Dalai Lama is far removed from the trappings of the world that you and I live in and is therefore more capable of living that life that he encourages. however, before *we* can, we need to unlearn the very comforts that we could not so easily purge. the crazy lady was right- we need to lose ourselves first. in fact, we need to lose everything about what we have become.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:50 pm
Arctor_Wray, 30M, Straight, Morgan City, Louisiana, United States; February 16 7:23am:
I haven’t read his work…but now that I’ve read your journal entry, I will. Thanks for a first journal entry that made a direct change.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:50 pm
tanguero, 27M, Straight, Decatur, Georgia, United States; February 1612:57pm:
If you’ll pardon the absolute geekiness…
“Do or do not. There is no try.” – Yoda
…seems to apply rather aptly to both my latest entry and your graduation speaker’s suggestion.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:51 pm
Ashcans, 23M, Straight, Atlanta, Georgia, United States; February 16 7:26pm:
adkgirl; I would be interested to know what sort of things are considered ‘too much’ to expose people to — not for morbid reasons, but because its an interesting question. It strikes me that images have an remarkable ability to compel people — Thich Quang Duc, Tiananmen Tank Man, the flag raising at Iwo Jima, more recently the footage of American deaths in Somalia. I think its significant that there were no images from Rwanda, very few out of Darfur, and that visual reporting is controlled out of combat zones rigorously. We are very used to getting ‘real’ footage of a lot of events, so the absence of images from, say, a genocide probably makes the whole thing seem all the more abstract and unreal. But, of course, no-holds-barred reporting only works if people choose to watch it. I have to think that people would care, though, or it’s hard to be hopeful at all.
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adkgirl06 | February 22, 2007 at 4:51 pm
FlipBHM, 36M, Straight, Birmingham, Alabama, United States; February 16 10:01pm:
I would love to read the Dalai Lama’s book- I just haven’t yet gotten to it. It seems much of what you quoted in the excerpt is the sort of thing I discussed with the Buddhist monks in the temples of northern Thailand. I had the pleasure of spending quite a bit of time in those temples- and though the sleep-inducing heat and barriers of language and accent sometimes were a hindrance,many messages got across, some unspoken. Be well -UF
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pianoforte | April 10, 2007 at 3:23 pm
Nice site. Thanks.